KiXxnTRiXx Posted November 17, 2018 #1 Posted November 17, 2018 Do you find it difficult to change your behavior? I do, in this case. Whenever i meet new people, i don't really question their motives, unless given a reason to. This, for a lot of people, makes me a target. Whenever possible, even when behing, i like to help with what tips i can afford to give out, sometimes even when i'm still recovering or have a goal i have to reach. Then you bust, you join chat, starts chatting, and suddenly you feel like sitting in a busy train station, trying to speak to someone, but no one even acknowledge your presence and continues on walkin pass you. But if you pulled out a bunch of cash and start giving some away, everyone suddenly is drawn to you like mosquitos are drawn to light... I know this is nothing new, and that is why i am curious on how others deal with this? I for one am having a difficult time ignoring people that i've made connections with that i'm aware is not truely real. Knowing this i still feel guilty when i try to ignore them. So how do you become an asshole and not feel guilty about it? lol...
KiXxnTRiXx Posted November 17, 2018 Author #2 Posted November 17, 2018 8 minutes ago, DarkBlood069 said: Most users that beg off me without my personal consent I normally ignore. I could not care less if they say "it's okay if not" but it's still very commonly used to get away with avoiding a mute. But the truth is that if they beg, I report. Simple. True, but these are people who you've made connections with already.. how do you deal with that?
irawk0 Posted November 17, 2018 #3 Posted November 17, 2018 Learnt this from a friend on Stake: tip anonymous so no one will see it (except for trivias where it's kinda mandatory to announce it) It's working well so far imo. Also don't do rains, and tip to specific people. If you make new friends down the line sure add them to the list of "specific people to tip" but definitely not on first sight. Several users are known to make multiple alts on here just to beg the half to 1 cent tips...
KiXxnTRiXx Posted November 17, 2018 Author #4 Posted November 17, 2018 5 minutes ago, irawk0 said: Learnt this from a friend on Stake: tip anonymous so no one will see it (except for trivias where it's kinda mandatory to announce it) It's working well so far imo. Also don't do rains, and tip to specific people. If you make new friends down the line sure add them to the list of "specific people to tip" but definitely not on first sight. Several users are known to make multiple alts on here just to beg the half to 1 cent tips... Yup, the alt thing im very much aware of.. I guess really, i created the post as a way to vent as well.. its an ongoing thing and starting to get sick of it all.
jualid Posted November 17, 2018 #5 Posted November 17, 2018 28 minutes ago, irawk0 said: Learnt this from a friend on Stake: tip anonymous so no one will see it (except for trivias where it's kinda mandatory to announce it) It's working well so far imo. Also don't do rains, and tip to specific people. If you make new friends down the line sure add them to the list of "specific people to tip" but definitely not on first sight. Several users are known to make multiple alts on here just to beg the half to 1 cent tips... Yeah totally agreed and once you tip someone, many alts suddenly come and chat lmao.
williamshennie9 Posted November 17, 2018 #6 Posted November 17, 2018 It has come to a point of entertaining beggars when I first joined Stake, to completely ignoring them when they beg. Not even replying lol
blueprints Posted November 17, 2018 #7 Posted November 17, 2018 3 hours ago, KiXxnTRiXx said: I know this is nothing new, and that is why i am curious on how others deal with this? I for one am having a difficult time ignoring people that i've made connections with that i'm aware is not truely real. Knowing this i still feel guilty when i try to ignore them. So how do you become an asshole and not feel guilty about it? lol... Ok so back when i started in primedice i was naive to the fact that people were lieing and being fake to me. I thought i had a bunch of friends and what not but then they showed their true colors and i learned how things were. Upon accepting how things are around here I decided to put up boundaries for online people, more boundaries then i have for people in real life. Why well because its easier to fake because all one has is words which can be easily manipulated. So i just make it hard to consider anyone a friend and make that connection that you mentioned which is real. Its a similar connection you make to real life friends which is why i think it has such an impact when you ignore them, because you care. Well i keep myself from connecting with someone until I see their words and actions and have no doubts about how genuine they are and mature (cuz i dont like to waste time on children minded adults either). Basically if i care about you then i will care more about being an asshole to you and not care about being an asshole to those i dont consider meaning anything to me and me to them. because why care about those that dont care about you? nonetheless i still fuck up and feel a little down when someone i thought was cool and friendly turns out to be another selfish fake bitch. but we live and we learn In the end really you can only depend on yourself to have your own back, I wouldnt see it as changing your behavior though, you just need to change how you determine whose worth your time getting to know and befriending. OR how much their worth getting to know and how close to get to them. 3 hours ago, KiXxnTRiXx said: True, but these are people who you've made connections with already.. how do you deal with that? your sorta fu*****. because you already invested into them and the relationship, so your going to have to call them out on the things that you dont think are right. or whenever they wrong you confront them about it. dont ignore anything that bothers you, because real friends whether online or in person can and will always work things out. Make one of your main focuses getting to know them. If you get to know em more and you dont like it, you will naturally distance yourself. When players in chat that id normally talk to start to ignore me like if im not important or some shit well i distance myself more each time. I will feel and think more after each time they do something like that, that they are fake. and distance.
Kate Posted November 17, 2018 #8 Posted November 17, 2018 Well there is not much you can really do but like maybe just hold Trivia's than randomly tipping to any user. But in the case of a tip to a Friend then just Tip in Secret that's it. If you want people to acknowledge you in chat then create a new stake account tip some balance to that and just chat on that account and tip no betting or anything so you are well known in the Chatbox.
Moderator Flan Posted November 17, 2018 Moderator #9 Posted November 17, 2018 Don't ever trust online friend because they are some fake and only needs you when they broke and completely forget you when he made some new connection that brings some begging things (loanings, etc).
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