Confess- The Line You Crossed ( I will Start it off.)

[Lillyflow]

Everyone who plays anywhere - at any game of chance has undoubtedly had a revelation at least once that they were, in fact, reducing their standards or crossing a boundary that they previously would not have.  If you have not found yourself erasing the line that you drew in the sand, only to move it - so you could gamble... they it will eventually happen. 

Confused? I will give my own, real example of a moral change in me - related to gambling. 

Prior to becoming a regular gambler I never would have let people see me in a poor or shattered state of existence. I was too embarrassed to ever say "I don't have enough money" - so I never asked for help or even hinted that I was struggling. I simply did not discuss money in a social setting. This has changed though. In fact,  that was a line I drew in the sand and said "I wont cross this line" -  then ... after only a few gambling sprees found myself erasing the line - drawing it further away - then fully - openly complaining about how much I had lost.  I even confess to doing this in a passive-begging type of hint. 

So while I may only be saying "Grrr" or "ouchies" or a long string of unsavory profanities... what I am actually saying is "FUCK! I blew it. I still want to play because I am rabbid over plinko. WHY WONT YOU ALL JUST DUMP MONEY IN MY LAP? ! ? !"    <---- Yes this is terrible, but I am guilty of this. Oops. Where I once would never make it awkward in social settings.. I now create awkward moments of discomfort in a room of gamblers who probably feel exactly how I do.

  I do not think anyone owes me anything.  In fact I want to change this bad habit of vocalizing my disappointment in the loss and especially if it is motivated by the hope of tips.  It doesn't work anyway so ...  really, I am just being a totally downer when I do that. 

I really must  break this social habit. Unless its working and you were about to finally dump tons of money in my lap. In that case,  I will resume the obnoxious display of distress - no problem. 

( a long pause) 

No?  

Had to try.  

Ok YOUR turn. Please describe a boundary that you test or push past -- thanks to gambling.  

[wry]

1 hour ago, Lillyflow said:

So while I may only be saying "Grrr" or "ouchies" or a long string of unsavory profanities... what I am actually saying is "FUCK! I blew it. I still want to play because I am rabbid over plinko. WHY WONT YOU ALL JUST DUMP MONEY IN MY LAP? ! ? !"

You literally just described about 30% of gambling chat.  I translate almost all rants into "Fuck! I blew it!".

The line I always cross is time.  Time wasted on non-constructive un-fun toxic people in chat - people that in RL I would simply say "excuse me" to on my way past them but who, thanks to the anonymity of the internet, I now spend hours with.  Don't get me wrong, there are some cool and interesting people in chat but they are increasingly driven out by destructive types.   Yes as a mod I can mute the rule breakers, but that just invites them to complain to support and further demonstrate their appalling moral character - seriously you should see all the lying that goes on about what people did until the inevitable screen shot shows up.  As much as I used to enjoy chat it is not a path to better, I'm not even sure it's fun anymore.

So take heart @Lillyflow!  You may have wasted more money than you would like on these places but I've wasted more life.  

[GKD09]

I understand your frustration and you would just love it if money just gets to your pocket at that time, but most likely its never going to happen. Even if you did, in that heat you would probably just bet it and lose it anyways. Betting to recover previous losses is horrible! I say it over and over again but yet I find myself doing it once in a while too. When I once lost quite an amount after a long betting session I was frustrated af. I let it out on chat a bit, put it on the forum cause clearly I had nothing better to do. But honestly in no hope of receiving anything from anyone. I just wanted to let it out. Mainly because that is not what I do and that is what I advice someone not to do, yet I did it after a long long time, TWICE. 

Anyways, back to the topic. Some of the worst things I've done is gambling and being active on Stake and other sites long before in the past few years, during more important times. Like having to study for finals or more recently having to prepare for an interview that was not of a sure date. Now when it comes to exams I always find every other thing more interesting and find myself procrastinating. But because there is a deadline I somehow work just before it and manage to do okay. 

But with this interview or interviews I had to face more recently (mainly for experience, before going for masters - not like I depend on a job or need funds to feed a family or something. That would be horrible if I didn't prepare then.) So yeah because it wasn't a sure interview where the date wasn't given. I procrastinated on Stake aloooot and then when I hear the date I start panicking and barely prepared and end up not doing well ofcourse. The worst feeling is because my dad is actually trying hard for me to get a job, yet because I don't have that exact deadline, I get lazy, I get annoyed that I have to prepare for something that is not even sure of. Because i've been told that I may be called for an interview many times and not go in the end or go and never hear from them again. So yeah its annoying, but its horrible nevertheless because it's something I can earn, rather than earn small amounts here as I dont deposit too much. So yeah its stupid when you think about it, but I'm addicted and when I procrastinate it gets even worse. 

[williamshennie9]

Great post Lori  I think we all have our own ways of dealing with losses. For me, I tend to not talk about them with anyone, because when I talk to people and I tell them I enjoy gambling, they assume I make money. So I never tell people when I lose, I just keep quiet. We each have our unique ways.

[Kate]

A long time not seeing lorri in the forum good to have ya back for me loosing is just what you have to accept and not take it as a fuss and just forget about it and just move on without thinking about it ever again.

[niki014]

i have sent many times to peoples who says that kinda stuff in chat but only if i know then and if i have balance cuz why not
btw i go skem skem skem keno and not cuz i am trying to get something but cuz i am mad cuz i lost tons of times in a roll on keno ( thats the only way i lose on it long losing streak ending with all in )
btw that was interesting post 

[Bimfo]

I have 2 lines I have crossed because of gambling with stake.

The 1st is focusing on a target. I am a target man. I love when I get my target. Then I leave for the day and come back the next day. But with stake, I am always looking for more until I bust. I tried to control it, but I got to know that greed was planted in a man's heart since he started sucking his mother breast.

The 2nd is focusing. I always cross that dangerous line and it costs me most time. When I am playing, I love when i don't have anyone to talk to and just listen to my mind, but a user will always message me to ask for tip, it is always so annoying to me. And then I lose focus and I am distabilized.

PS: I hate asking for tips. It makes everyone hate you and just give up on you after you have been reported to the admin and everyone knows you.

[rajamishra]

hello lilly its not only in this gambling games ,everyone who lost  so many time consecutive on the day all are reactive like you.me too when i lost every day  i also released our frustration in chat too.it's a common things but when cross the limits you banned  or muted ,stil i am not muted for that reasons. thank god  

[Lillyflow]

9 hours ago, wry said:

You literally just described about 30% of gambling chat.  I translate almost all rants into "Fuck! I blew it!".

The line I always cross is time.  Time wasted on non-constructive un-fun toxic people in chat - people that in RL I would simply say "excuse me" to on my way past them but who, thanks to the anonymity of the internet, I now spend hours with.  Don't get me wrong, there are some cool and interesting people in chat but they are increasingly driven out by destructive types.   Yes as a mod I can mute the rule breakers, but that just invites them to complain to support and further demonstrate their appalling moral character - seriously you should see all the lying that goes on about what people did until the inevitable screen shot shows up.  As much as I used to enjoy chat it is not a path to better, I'm not even sure it's fun anymore.

So take heart @Lillyflow!  You may have wasted more money than you would like on these places but I've wasted more life.  

Wry you gave me chills all the way to my toes with the last sentence there.  FYI @wry You are one shining ray of light in a sea of cranky turds. You are not wasted when you are setting a fine example. They may not ever achieve the same great social skills as you Wryy but you really do hold a lot of this place and other places - together with a thread.  If you walked away the thread would unravel to a destructive degree, so no Wry you are not a wasted mind in any way. In fact you probably save a life at least once a week. 

[Lillyflow]

Brave confessions. It is amazingly uplifting to see people telling the truth this way. Being vulnerable is altogether one of the scariest things a human can experience so... good job I guess. I do know that if you find yourself crossing the line to the point of criminal activity or to your life's detriment you should probably seek outside assistance for an addictive pattern of play. I think it never get healed once you are truly in the mindset of addiction - so regulating your play will likely lead to the same issues just more slowly.  We have to remember to have fun and never ever bet the farm. Or lunch money. 

[ScooterPi]

I kinda doubt that anybody could ever top wry's observation in terms of honesty or observation.

But I'll chip in my two cents anyhow.

The line I was crossing regularly and I'm currently in practice of not crossing....is letting myself become overly invested in the game. 

This means, if I am winning, I'm withdrawing.  Period. 

It's just so addictive (in that neuro-cant-be-helped sort of way) to play big money when I have a big win.  But yeah....lesson learned, it ends badly 99.99999% of the time.  Better to withdraw my precious lil windfall and continue to enjoy some games all footloose and fancy-free.  But with some lower bets. 

[polor12]

ill this short, everyone came to play here at a casino. for one reason and is to win.... people spend as much as they since it was anonymous.. but people came across this site. where a casino is not like other online casinos. is that chat box.. getting  show your frustration.. having some individuals know what you going through. losing is part og gambling.,, everyone has  done passive begging..it all shows in chat.. everyone including me.. but some do it more in which..became a daily thing.. announcing how much a person lost and won.. what would it prove.. we all have our off days.. and we found an outlet to let it be known.. it takes only one person to do it and the rest will follow suit..now when i do play i keep my chat window close.. and only go to chat if there is something interesting going on.. because really it chat.. took me off for my reason coming here in first place..to play and win if i lose eff it.. move on,,